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Bullying and Harassment at Work: A Guide for Women

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40% of working women report experiencing harassment during their careers. Get practical strategies for handling toxic environments in this blog.


Hello and welcome to this week's WOOT blog. This post is for every woman who has ever felt a knot in her stomach before a meeting with a specific colleague. It is for the professional whose ideas have been constantly belittled or stolen. It is for anyone who has been on the receiving end of subtle microaggressions or overt hostility in the place they go to earn a living.


The Reality of Bullying and Harassment at Work

  • 40% of working women report experiencing sexual harassment during their careers 

  • 59% of women have faced unwanted advances or harassment 

  • 81% of women experience some form of harassment, yet a staggering 86% do not report it 


This blog explores the serious topic of Bullying and Harassment at Work. It is a reality that damages mental health, derails careers, and frankly, is entirely unacceptable. For any woman who has felt isolated or questioned her own sanity in a toxic work environment, know this: it is not your fault, and there are steps you can take to protect yourself. This guide offers a starting point for navigating these difficult waters.


What Exactly Is Workplace Bullying?

Let’s get definitions right: Workplace bullying is repeated, health-harming mistreatment of one or more persons by one or more perpetrators. It takes the form of verbal abuse, offensive conduct/behaviours (including nonverbal), or work interference that prevents work from getting done. Harassment, while often overlapping, specifically involves unwelcome conduct based on protected characteristics like gender, race, or age. What the perpetrator is doing is asserting dominance and control, often masking their own insecurities through intimidation.


This is not an issue of "tough management" or "personality clashes." It happens in prestigious law firms, creative agencies, and on factory floors. It is a pervasive workplace poison that has less to do with your performance and everything to do with a toxic culture that allows such behaviour to go unchecked.


Why It's More Than Just "A Bad Day"

While the immediate reaction might be to try to brush it off, the impact of persistent bullying is severe. It can significantly erode mental health, leading to anxiety, depression, and burnout. In a professional setting, it can destroy a woman's confidence, making her second-guess her abilities and hesitate to speak up. For a career trajectory, it often forces talented women to leave roles or industries entirely, perpetuating the gender gap in leadership. Effectively addressing and surviving a toxic environment is a critical survival skill.


The Action Toolkit: Steps to Protect Yourself

Feeling empowered is the key to navigating a hostile environment. Instead of feeling helpless, having a clear plan of action can restore a sense of control. We have found that taking systematic steps helps in situations when you feel targeted. Here are five approaches, adaptable for various workplace scenarios.


1. The Documentation Habit

This is the most critical first step. It is factual, indisputable, and forms the basis of any formal action.

  • Keep a detailed log of incidents: dates, times, locations, witnesses, and exactly what was said or done.

  • Save all relevant emails, messages, or documents to a personal (non-work) device or file.


2. The "Call It Out" (When Safe)

Perfect for when the behaviour is subtle or micro-aggressive, and you feel safe enough to address it in the moment. It establishes boundaries clearly.

  • "I’m not sure how you intended that comment, but it came across as disrespectful."

  • "Please do not speak to me in that tone. We can continue this conversation when it's professional."


3. The Support Network

This approach ensures you are not carrying the burden alone. It is crucial for maintaining your mental health and gaining perspective.

  • Confide in trusted colleagues who may have witnessed the behaviour or experienced it themselves.

  • Seek support outside of work; friends, family, or a professional counsellor.


4. The Formal Report

For when the situation escalates, or informal attempts to resolve it have failed. This is about utilising the systems designed to protect you.

  • Review your company’s HR policies on bullying and harassment.

  • Submit a formal, written complaint using the documentation you have gathered. Focus on facts and the impact on your work.


5. The Exit Strategy

Use this when the environment is irreparably toxic, and HR or management is unsupportive. It is crucial for protecting your long-term well-being.

  • Recognise that leaving a toxic job is not a failure; it is a boundary.

  • Begin networking and job quietly hunting while maintaining professionalism in your current role.


Here’s how you can take the first step: 


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You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone 

If this post has you thinking, “Is it really that bad, or is it just me?”, you’re exactly who Womeniverse™ is for.


Womeniverse™ is the Women of Our Time community where women support women at work and in life. It’s a practical, judgement-free space to steady yourself, get clarity on what’s happening, and work out your next step, whether that’s documenting, setting boundaries, reporting, or planning an exit with confidence.


Inside you’ll find:

  • peer support from women who’ve dealt with bullying, harassment, intimidation and toxic team dynamics

  • expert-led sessions on boundaries, difficult conversations, confidence, and protecting your reputation at work

  • tools and templates you can use immediately, including incident logs, email wording, and scripts for HR and managers

  • conversations that help you feel less alone at work, and more grounded, supported and clear-headed again


Join Womeniverse™ here: www.womenofourtime.uk


Your Only Agenda is You.


With support,

The Women of Our Time Team


P.S. If you know a woman who’s dreading work because of how she’s being treated, share this post with her. Feeling unsafe at work isn’t normal, and she deserves support.


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Handling Bullying & Harassment – Frequently Asked Questions 

Q. What if the bully is my boss?

A. This is the most challenging dynamic. Your documentation becomes even more critical. You may need to bypass standard HR and go to their superior, or seek external legal counsel if the behavior crosses into illegal harassment.

Q. I’m afraid of retaliation if I report it. What should I do?

A. Retaliation for reporting harassment is illegal in many jurisdictions. However, the fear is valid. Ensure you document your performance and any changes in how you are treated after reporting. Having a support system is vital here.

Q. Is it bullying or just a demanding workplace?

A. Demanding workplaces focus on the work (tight deadlines, high standards). Bullying focuses on the person (humiliation, isolation, impossible tasks designed to make you fail). If it feels personal and degrading, it is likely bullying.

Q. Can WOOT help me?

A. This is a core focus of the WOOT Membership. It provides a confidential community to share experiences, gain perspective from others who have navigated similar situations, and find the strength to advocate for yourself.


 
 
 

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